I have seen elder cliques, work, vacation, eat out together. That was the ones who told me to not even think of reaching out, they didn't need me. I gladly complied. Later a different bunch you could overhear snide remarks about other elders, pioneers, and webelos.
Back when there was a fierce competition for city servant. I half expected campaign buttons. Pompous ass millionaire won. He did my wife dirt as she was from the wrong side of the tracks. Never let her know when they gutted the keepsakes from her dearest old friend. Instead of giving her anything they took it all; threw pictures out to get a nice frame. All we have is memories.